How to get a guy to want to meet you
If only it would rain kittens, puppies, and adorable men. Throw some chocolate into the mix and women across the planet would be all sorts of happy. Kittens, puppies, and chocolate are easy to get. The adorable men, however, are a tight catch and a rare breed. All kidding aside, if you want to get to know men on a personal level, you will have to really put yourself out there. The dating world is not for the timid, and the women who sit at home, wishing for Mister Perfect to show up on the doorstep are not going to get very far.
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If only it would rain kittens, puppies, and adorable men. Throw some chocolate into the mix and women across the planet would be all sorts of happy. Kittens, puppies, and chocolate are easy to get. The adorable men, however, are a tight catch and a rare breed.
All kidding aside, if you want to get to know men on a personal level, you will have to really put yourself out there. The dating world is not for the timid, and the women who sit at home, wishing for Mister Perfect to show up on the doorstep are not going to get very far. In fact, it would be like fishing for trout in the bathtub. You are not going to catch anything other than a few soap bubbles.
If you want to meet men, you will have to get out of the house and leave your work stress behind. Sure, you may have to attend a few events all by yourself as you search for a soul mate in the crowds, but when you find that one perfect partner, it will all be worth it. In the meantime, learn how to get a guy interested in you for when the time comes and the partner of your dreams comes waltzing into the coffee shop.
How do you let a new guy know that you are interested in him? You stare at him, make glances in his direction, and you make sure that he sees you doing it. Most often, if the guy notices that you are sneaking looks at him, he will try and make eye contact with you or he may just walk up to you and introduce himself. It is the universal quiet signal that most men understand, and if he is also interested in you, he will muster up the courage to engage you in a conversation.
Yes, there are a few man-children who are incredibly rude and make a scene if they feel they are being looked at by women they have no interest in.
The way I see it, those guys that are rude are showing their true colors and belong at home with their mommies. They are not worth dating. Whatever you do, do not start telling the guy you have just met all the bad things that have happened to you this past week.
Trust me when I say that he does not want to hear it. If he is out on the town or out on the prowl, the last thing he wants to hear is how you stubbed your toe when you got out of bed this morning, then broke your favorite coffee mug, followed by burning yourself with the hair straightener. Save the woe is me stuff for your best friend. Right now, you have got to focus on getting to know this new guy a little better to find out if he is the one you have been waiting for all of your life.
Also, never talk about your ex when you first meet a guy. Say nothing bad about a previous boyfriend, even if this new guy asks you about it directly. I am not kidding when I say that you need to learn the art of flirting. Flirting has really died off with the instant gratification of modern society, but when you learn how to flirt it can open up a whole new world of dating for you.
There are books on how to flirt and if you've lost touch with the act, there is absolutely no shame in reading up on how other people flirt. Of course, you may be a natural at flirting, but it has gotten you into trouble in the past.
If you have been holding the flirt back, let it out. Especially when you meet that Mr. Could Be Right at a friendly get together. You walk into a coffee shop and waiting in line in front of you is a very handsome guy. He turns and looks at you. He says hi and you hi back. Then there is that awkward silence until he reaches the counter and places his order.
When he gets his coffee, he turns and says his goodbye, and you watch him leave knowing you will probably never see him again. If you want to break the awkwardness of that first meeting, ask him a question or two. Is he on lunch break? Is the coffee any good here? You just met the guy and you are hoping to, at the very least, figure out when and where you can see him again.
If things go well, the two of you can exchange numbers and start in on texting each other. Imagine walking down the sidewalk and you spot a really hot guy. He smiles, thanks you, and tells you that his mom made it for him. You are not the only one who likes to get a compliment out of the blue.
Guys like them, too, and if you can sneak one in, all the better. If you have never been into handing out compliments, now is as good a time to start as any. It costs you nothing to give out random, sincere compliments, and it makes you a more memorable, good hearted person in the eyes of other people. If you are really interested in a guy you just met, ask him out for coffee.
Most people enjoy going to the local coffee shop, even if they are not all that crazy about drinking the stuff. It is simply a great place to relax and socialize with people. If there is a new movie in the theaters and it comes out in conversation that you both want to see it, ask him if he would want to see it with you. Make it a friend date and not a romantic date to take off all the pressure of a potential relationship.
In fact, at this point, keep the romance out of the equation and focus on getting to know that guy. It is better to find out while you are both friends if the two of you are compatible or not. Instead, tone it down a bit and create an air of mystery about yourself that will drive him absolutely mad. To create an air of mystery, learn to give a little smile when he asks you a question.
For example, if he asks you something about a past boyfriend or your previous relationships, it is always best to hold your tongue. Smile and change the subject. It is the same with secrets. Keep them to yourself. He does not need to know everything about you right away and the more you keep him guessing, the more he will want to see you to try and figure you out. Be the puzzle and not an emotional mess. Have you ever been around someone who is so stressed out that just being in the same room with her also makes you feel stressed?
As you probably know, people who are always highly stressed are no fun to be around. You feel it, friends and family feel it, and that cute guy down the hall can feel it, too.
We are all sensitive to stress and none of us want to deal with it. Keep that in mind the next time some handsome guy catches your attention. If you are stressed, but you want to get this guy interested in you, you are going to have to learn how to drop the stress immediately. Drop the drama, too, because that is just as stressful to other people.
Instead, plant a smile on your face and take a few deep breaths. Relax and charm him with your friendliness.
While you are there, you notice this rather handsome guy staying there, too. So, you approach him and ask him if he is planning a trip. Before you know it, the two of you are talking about your favorite places to go camping and how you both would love to live the dream of traveling for a living. If you can find a similarity or make a mutual connection with a guy, you have yourself a new friend and that means that the relationship could very well develop into something more.
You have suddenly become interesting to him and he to you. It is a great start. Do you want marriage, a nice house, and a busload of babies? Hold on there and bite your tongue. The quickest way to scare off a guy as soon as you meet him is to start talking about marriage and babies. After all, you just met the guy and are in the getting to know you phase of the relationship. It is way too soon to start making future plans.
Give yourself a pep talk and understand that friendship comes first. If there is going to be a stable and healthy relationship with this guy, you want it to start off on a stable foundation. Absolutely no one likes to be around a Debbie Downer. If you want to get that guy interested in you, it is time to drop all the grumpiness and the moping. Instead, think of all the funny things that have happened to you in your life, and wear that humored smile on your face.
It is the same thing when you get into a conversation with him. Approach it with a sense of humor. Tell a terrible joke, laugh at his joke, and just loosen up and have a good time, even if it is only for a few minutes before one of you has to leave for work.
Life is meant to be enjoyed, and there is no one more enjoyable than a happy person, full of life. Be a fun person to talk to and hang out with. Show him you know how to have a good chuckle and that you do not always take life super seriously.
Let us pretend that you have been noticing this guy for the past few days, but every time you see him, you quickly stare down at your phone or start to act like you are busy. Instead of looking too busy to be bothered, try looking bored. Kick back, cover your mouth, and give a yawn. Show him that you have nothing else going on and that you are completely free for a conversation.
While you are at it, put away your phone.
This is such a common problem. Many women have been in this frustrating, no-win situation. Below, I share my dating advice with a woman who wrote about this very issue. I met this man through an online site. We have been texting and talking on the phone for six months.
Nothing could possibly be further from the truth. Reality starts when you move things offline. Their friends are all online dating, so they figure, hey, why not? He either knows that and is super self-aware, or he has no idea.
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Um, what?! That said, there are a few tactics you can use to keep him interested during those critical first few minutes, which increases your odds of scoring a date. Make Real Eye Contact. Unfortunately, many women tend to turn away when they like someone, and avoid looking directly at them. This is a mistake! Put Your Boobs Away. Yes, men love short skirts and spaghetti strap dresses. Most men love legs in all lengths. A fresh pedi in strappy sandals does it for us too. Just be mindful of that plunging neckline.
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